Titus 2 Mommy of 2

Sufferings and God

2010-10-17T21:00:00.000-07:00

I have recently been broken over a friend that is going through some tough times, right now. A godly friend, who has given wise counsel to many and a great leader in their home. My heart went out to them. I can say honestly that I've 'been there, done that.' Sometimes, we all suffer hardships in life. These sufferings and trials come in many ways-financially, with relations to others, and physically, to name just a few. As Christians, we are told, warned, and even promised, that suffering will come in this life on earth. To compound these hardships, is another issue that many of us suffer-how to deal with our suffering when others are not. A lot of Christians have struggled with this. This article is long and will take some time to read, but I do hope and pray that if you are suffering, please take the time to read it fully. All scripture quoted is taken from the New American Standard Bible.

"Lord, I have worked so hard to follow You and do Your Will. I have worked hard to lead and guide my family and my children in Your ways. Yet, I can't seem to get ahead. I always seem to be 2 steps back. I struggle all the time." "Then look over there-they profess to be Christians and won't even get out of bed once a week to worship with others as you told us to, much less seek to do Your will every day-yet they never struggle financially or physically, and seem to have a wonderful life. And then look at them-they openly mock the name of God and of Christ, and seem to have everything handed to them on a silver platter and never have a problem." "IT"S NOT FAIR!"

My dear friends, my brothers and sisters in Christ, first of all, know that you are not alone in your struggles. Suffering and trials are not even new to our generations, nor are the questions and emotions they bring. I'm going to the only place I know to draw encouragement from to share with you-the Word of God. If He didn't understand and know our trials, He would not have addressed it-and more than once, at that. So, get your favorite Bible, and read along with me as we learn to deal with these issues, together.

First, I'm drawn to look at the life of Job. You know his story-he had everything. God gave permission to Satan to take away everything but his life and it caused great suffering of all kinds. Eventually, God prospered him, once again. But, during his times of struggle, he asked a lot of questions and was given lots of bad advice. His friends told him that his suffering was 'obviously' because of sin. I've heard others tell those suffering that they just 'aren't praying enough' or 'don't have enough faith.' If that is always true and the only answer-then the disciples, Paul, and other great 'heroes' of the faith should have prospered, had great health, and would never have been prosecuted and possibly even put to death for their faith. My own suffering has yet to even compare. Let me say this, God's Sovereignty does not revolve around our happiness. God is Sovereign, Almighty, The Truth, and even Just-whether we are suffering or not. Let us worship Him because of who He is-not what He can do for us.

Now to get back to Job. Job 21:7-13 says, "Why do the wicked still live, continue on, also become very powerful? Their descendants are established with them in their sight, And their offspring before their eyes, their houses are safe from fear, and the rod of God is not on them. His ox mates without fail; his cow calves and does not abort. They send forth their little ones like the flock, and their children skip about. They sing to the timbrel and harp and rejoice at the sound of the flute. They spend their days in prosperity, and suddenly they go down to Sheol."

These are words that Job, himself, spoke. He saw how the ungodly prosper and strive and seem to "live happily ever after." But, the words that make me shudder, are the very last in this passage-"...and suddenly they go down to Sheol." Sheol is otherwise known as Hell.

I'm going to leave Job for just a minute, and turn to Psalm 73:2-17, "Behold, these are the wicked; and always at ease, they have increased in wealth. Surely in vain I have kept my heart pure and washed my hands in innocence; for I have been stricken all day long and chastened every morning. If I had said, "I will speak thus," behold, I would have betrayed the generation of Your children. When I pondered to understand this, it was troublesome in my sight until I came into the sanctuary of God; then I pereceived their end."

The writer of this psalm really seemed to be struggling with the prosperity of the wicked, and his own sufferings. He even feels that his efforts to stay pure and innocent before God are in vain. Do you think he feels 'hung out to dry' or what? Have you felt that way-hung out to dry? That everything you do for the Lord is in vain, when compared to the accomplishments of others, especially those who don't try to serve God very hard, or not at all? This psalmist was very troubled-until he entered the sanctuary of God. Only then, did he realize the truth and the very sad ending of the ungodly. The same thing that Job came to understand.

Friends, go to the sanctuary of God. Do not be jealous of those that prosper more, especially if they do not have the salvation of Christ. We should be praying hard for them-for God to open their eyes and let them receive the gift of eternal life through Christ. And if they never do, then don't begrudge them any prosperity, health, or wealth they have on this earth, because this is as close to paradise as they will ever come, and their end is a forever separation from the love of God, to spend eternity in damnation. We should be praising God for calling us out of that, and praying for their souls.

I turn back to Job now. He called out to God several times, complaining of his afflictions and of the accusations and ill advice from his well-meaning friends. Yes, Job was complaining! God, in His infinite wisdom, makes sure to put all of this in the book of Job. Our heavenly Father wants us to know that He hears our complaints! Even in our sin of complaining, (and yes, it is a sin now and was for Job-who later repented-42:6), He does hear us!! But, God didn't answer Job right away, or every time he complained. God was silent for quite a while before He answered. Sometimes, I have felt that my thoughts and prayers to God have just bounced right off the ceiling, know what I mean? We suffer and struggle and long to hear just a word-and yet there is nothing, for what seems like forever. Silence from God can be deafening, painful. But, there is a lesson to be learned-we need to stop complaining of our suffering and look for God in our suffering. Sometimes, he allows us to suffer just so we will know what it is like to be comforted, healed, or reconciled by Him. Sometimes, He is silent because maybe we need to learn patience. I don't have any idea why God is silent sometimes. I do know that He does hear us and He will answer us-in His time, which is always the perfect time. If He always answered us right away, we would no doubt miss out on a lesson and a blessing we can receive during the silence.

God did speak, though. Job chapter 38 and 39 is a full account of when God first speaks to Job regarding the situation he is in. "...The Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind" is how chapter 38 starts out. Friends, I like that. Sometimes He speaks to us in a whisper, but sometimes, He speaks to us out of the whirlwind. God never tells Job the reasons for his sufferings and afflictions-never. Instead, God starts asking the questions. In 38:4 and following, God asks Job, "Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth? Tell Me, if you have understanding, who set its measurements? Since you know. Or who stretched the line on it?" Verses 12 and 13 go on to say, "Have you ever in your life commanded the morning, and caused the dawn to know its place, that it might take hold of the ends of the earth, and the wicked shall be shaken out of it?"

Brothers and sisters, sometimes we just have to deal with the fact that we don't get to know why. God is the Creator and Commander of all things. He doesn't owe us anything, much less an answer every time we think we deserve one. Sometimes, the reasons for our suffering are deep in heavenly places and for God's purpose only. This reminds me of the answer I give to my children at times, "Because I told you so." I, as their parent, shouldn't have to give them a reason to obey every time I tell them to. They need to do it because I'm their parent and I told them so. Young children can't or don't need to always know our reasons. The reasons might be too much for them to bear at the time, but the obedience isn't. Our Father won't give us more than we can handle, but we might not be able to handle the reasons for it. I worked with a godly lady one time, who said, "Sometimes, it's best not to know." She was talking about suffering and heartaches. She lost a daughter in a tragic auto accident. Don't you think she asked God a thousand times, "Why?" Her pain ran deeper than I hope to ever understand. But, she went to the sanctuary of God. He didn't tell her why, but He comforted her and felt her pain with her. He will do the same for you. Take time to read the whole of chapters 38-42. In fact, read the whole story of Job.

Dear friends, I can only hope and pray that the truth from the Word of God Himself, can set things in a new light and become an encouragement to you. You might even be angry with God right now-take it to Him, He can handle it. Be honest with Him, then let the anger go as quickly as possible. As a child of God, our treasures on not to be stored on earth-where they will eventually be destroyed and ruined, but our real treasures should be stored in Heaven. Galatians 6:9 says, "Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary." Paul says this after he teaches that we will all reap what we sow-whether it be sown from the flesh or from the Spirit. Those who sow from the flesh will reap corruption, while those who sow from the Spirit will reap eternal life.

On last scripture I share-Philippians 3:17-4:1. "Brethren, join in following my example, and observe those who walk according to the pattern you have in us. For many walk, of whom I often told you, and now tell you even weeping, that they are enemies of the cross of Christ, whose end is destruction, whose god is their appetite, and whose glory is in their shame, who set their minds on earthly things. For our citizenship is in heaven, from which also we eagerly wait for a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ; who will transform the body of our humble state into conformity with the body of His glory, by the exertion of the power that he has even to subject all things to Himself. Therefore,...stand firm in the Lord, my beloved."

Weep for those who reject God, don't compare your life to theirs. Child of God-you will have eternal riches in glory-they will have eternal hell. Go to the sanctuary of God. Find God in your suffering and wait for Him-knowing that He has not forgot you, He hears every word you utter and those you don't, and your work for the Lord will not be in vain. Take care, for He who is in you, has overcome the world!!

Feed the Birds: Activities

2010-03-27T14:59:00.000-07:00

One of my children's most requested bed time songs is "Feed the Birds" from Mary Poppins. I love to sing it to them because I want to instill in my children a sense of caring for the world around us and the creatures that share the world with us. Our little feathered friends are easy to help care for and a great way to teach a lesson of taking care of what God has given us. There are several easy-to-make bird feeder ideas in the internet world, and I'm going to share just a few.

A very simple and "green" bird feeder idea is to simply find a pine cone, tie some yarn at the top, making sure you have enough to hang from a branch, and cover it with peanut butter. You can add lard or cornmeal to the peanut butter to help it go down easier, but there is no evidence to suggest that peanut butter can choke a bird. For an added treat, you can sprinkle birdseed on the peanut butter and pat it down lightly to make sure it sticks.

Another simple idea is to take yarn and thread it with Cheerios or other cereal that is round with a hole in the center, make a loop, then hang it from a branch. This is great for small children because you can do counting lessons, or take the colorful cereal and practice with patterns. If the little birds prefer, you can cover the cereal with peanut butter, and for an extra treat, sprinkle with bird seed. With this idea, or any of the other ones, you can also keep watch of what kind of birds come to visit your little cafe. Take pictures or keep a sketch book and then look them up on the internet to find out more about your wild neighbors. You can also keep track of what time of day the birds visit, how long your particular feeder lasts before you have to create another one, and so on. The educational lessons are almost endless.

As a fun Christmas idea, take your (real) Christmas tree outside when you are finished, and adorn it with the above ideas until you just absolutely have to get rid of it. Popcorn is also a safe treat for birds and would look so cute. What a great idea to get a little extra use out of those trees!

For other ideas, just search the net. There are several ideas as well as food options for our little friends. Have fun and feed the birds!!

Rainbow Brite Giveaway Winner...

2010-02-28T12:48:00.000-08:00

I am pleased to announced that the winner of the Rainbow Brite doll collection giveaway is...
Beth from upstate New York!! Her number was selected by Random.org.
Congratulations, Beth!!

Thank you to all who entered. I look forward to hosting other giveaways in the future, so keep following. And in the meantime, I hope you enjoy my writings that I post from time to time, as well.

Rainbow Brite Review and Giveaway!

2010-02-20T14:05:00.000-08:00

I was recently chosen by MomSelect (in conjuction with Hallmark) to receive a Rainbow Brite doll to review and given an opportunity to give one away! I am very excited as this is my very first Giveaway contest ever!!

I remember Rainbow Brite and Friends from my younger years and enjoyed watching the cartoons with my sister. She was cute then, but I believe the new collection is much better! The collection includes Rainbow Brite, Tickled, and Moonglow. I actually received Rainbow Brite, herself and she is adorable! She is about 9.5" tall and comes complete with a pair of rainbow boots. The colors are vivid and I believe every little girl will love them. She is all things girly and wholesome and fun. I am going to give mine to my daughter for her 4th birthday in a few weeks. She will be soooo excited!! The Rainbow Brite collection is rated for 3 years old and up.

You can learn more about Rainbow Brite at http://www.rainbowbrite.com/ and can find the Rainbow Brite doll collection at Target; soon to be sold at Toys R Us. But, if you would like to receive one for free, just enter my contest!! You will receive one of the three dolls I mentioned. I can't guarantee or choose which doll you will receive, but I can tell you that they are all 'too cute' and you will enjoy which ever one you are sent.

To enter your name in my giveaway, you must FIRST leave a message and tell me your memories of Rainbow Brite as a child, or visit http://www.rainbowbrite.com/ and tell me what you like.

If you would like a second entry, follow my blog then leave a message to tell me that you do or that you just joined.

The contest will end February 26, and the winner must give me your information by February 28 or I will choose a new winner, as I have to turn the winning information in on March 1st. Names will be chosen by Random.org.

Disclaimer: I received a Rainbow Brite doll for review purposes and one to offer in a giveaway. I did not receive any monetary compensation for this review. This review contains my honest opinions. I can not be held liable for winnings but will work with the company to resolve any matters.

Rainbow Brite Fun & Games

2010-02-20T13:50:00.000-08:00

If you are a child of the 80's, then you will remember the name Rainbow Brite. I remember watching the Rainbow Brite cartoons with my sister and singing along with the theme song. Well...she's back and better than ever!! So, when MomSelect offered to send me 10 Rainbow Brite computer CD's, one to keep and the others to give away, I jumped at the chance.

The Rainbow Brite Adventure Pack CD offers an animated short, games, activities, and more. You can also find these things at http://www.rainbowbrite.com/. When I introduced my 3 year old daughter to the first couple of animated shorts, she started pointing out which ones she wanted to watch next. I showed her the Rainbow Brite collection and she quickly said, "I want that for my birthday!" The activities are fun and the different game levels will cover a wide range of ages for your children to enjoy. Even my 5 year old son got in on the action. I actually had to pry them away because they were having so much fun!

Rainbow Brite is very wholesome and safe for your young girls to enjoy. If you have a young girl, go to http://www.rainbowbrite.com/ today and start enjoying the fun. The Rainbow Brite collection includes Rainbow Brite, Tickled, and Moonglow. You can find them and their horses at Target and coming soon to Toys R Us.

Confessions of a Piddler (and a few ideas) part 2

2010-02-04T19:26:00.000-08:00

As I promised in part 1 of 'Confessions of a Piddler', you will find below several practical and helpful ideas and advice to help you with your piddler. Just a few are my own suggestions. The rest come from the wonderful homeschool Yahoo group I belong to, but for safety reasons I will not list their names. The ideas suggested however, can be used for any child, home schooled or traditionally schooled. These ideas are also great with children that have ADD and ADHD or for any child that might just need a little motivation. If you have not read part 1, please take time to do that. It offers insight into reasons behind the piddling that you might find useful. Knowing why is probably more important that trying to help a situation we don't fully understand in the first place. Okay, okay. Enough talk, already..... the list!

1. ~ The most popular method I've heard, (and was used by my mother, as well) is to...use a timer!
There are several suggested ways to utilize the little tool. One idea given was to let your child "race against the timer." Another suggestion is to use rewards and consequences. Keep a prize box with small/cheap rewards if they beat the timer or let them do something fun as a treat, even just a trip to the park or a play area. If they finish a certain assignment before the timer goes off, let them use the rest of the time to play before going to the next lesson. As a consequence, they lose play time if they have to continue working instead. I would add...make sure you give them a reasonable amount of time. If your child constantly runs over, you might need to add a little more time for them or divide the assignment/lesson into different times. Let them do part of it for a certain amount of time, take a break, then do the next part.

2. ~ Rewards are a great motivator with or without a timer. Again, keep the rewards small and cheap, if not free or you will find yourself overwhelmed. Even a small snack will work.

3. ~ One parent has "Cookie Fridays." If her children stay on task all week, (good for home school assignments or homework brought home,) then on Fridays, she lets her children pick what kind of cookies to make. She only uses a half of a batch to keep the sugary sweets to a minimum. She said her children remind each other to stay on task and they have only missed out one week. Cookies sound like a great motivator to me!!

4. ~ Another suggestion was to play a lively classical music CD in the background. Classical music is widely known for stimulating the brain.

5. ~ A public school special education teacher recommended taking one of those long swimming noodles, cut it in half, and let them roll their feet on it while working. Children's minds and bodies, especially younger ones, are constantly moving. Being able to move a part of their body while doing seatwork might help keep them focused on the task at hand.

6. ~ Build their habit of focus gradually. Start in 10 minute incriments, or even 5 minutes for the younger school age student and require 100% attention during that time and no play time or rewards until the task is finished. As they mature, lengthen the amount of time. It is suggested that if they absolutely cannot sit still and focus at a particular time, give them a physical task to do such as dusting or cleaning something until they get it out of their system.

7. ~ One lady said she just resigned herself to the fact that it was going to take a little longer. While we need to teach our children to stay on task, this is a good idea to keep our own sanity. Just love them the way they are and don't let it get to you. I am a full grown piddler now, (grown ups call it procrastination,) and I can honestly say...it will get better.

8. ~ One of my own ideas is to make a 'mini-office' for your child. Now, the office I made is probably better suited for home schooled children. I will address a similar idea for traditionally schooled children in a minute. The mini-office is basically a little cubicle made out of file folders or a tri-fold project board that your child can set in front of them on the table or desk to help block distractions from others. I made one for my son, and it does help when his little sister is on the other side of the table. Oddly enough, the helpful printouts I decorated it with can be a distraction itself. But, once the newness of it wears off, it works quite well. This may work for multiple children doing homework brought home, too. Here are a few pictures of our mini-offices. I actually used a tri-fold project board that was so larg, I cut it in half and made two. (I wasn't going for this, but the dollar store was out of the smaller boards and I had to get a larger one at a big box store.) I made one with helpful math tips on it and one for reading and writing. Obviously, our printouts are geared for K-1 grade, but there are printouts available for whatever level you need. (I still have to add a pocket with fraction wheels to the vacant spot on the math one.)

Here is a link to a site that will show more examples of mini-offices and where to get the printoutes...

http://www.busyteacherscafe.com/teacher_resources/mini_offices.htm#sheets

Most of the mini-offices you will see on these sites are made of file folders attached together and once all the printouts are in place, they laminate the entire office. I'm going to make one like this for my daughter.

I would like to make a similar suggestion for children in a classroom. Often the homework that a child brings home is what was not completed during that time in class, possibly because of distractions around them. One of the things I remember doing in my elementary years of school was taking my binder and setting it up on the desk or table in front of me to pretend it was my 'office.' Actually, all of the girls did this. (I don't remember what the boys did.) But, we worked diligently in our 'offices' to get our work done. Maybe someone else did this and the 'mini-office' idea was born from it. Ask your child's teacher if it's okay for your child to set a binder up on their desk or the space in front of them while doing independent seatwork. Maybe it will help them stay focused on the task in front of them. And who knows, maybe it will inspire others to do the same, thus possibly helping someone else, too.

These ideas, as stated before, have come from other parents who deal with piddling everyday. I hope you find something that helps you or sparks your own creative ideas on how to help our children when the task seems long. Above all, love them and every little quirk about them!!!

Confessions of a Piddler (and a few ideas) part 1

2010-01-28T11:54:00.000-08:00

As I struggle with my oldest child to stay on task during school lessons, I have to admit that he comes by it honestly. I was a born piddler. My mother loves to tell the story of when I was first born and still in the hospital. Apparently, all of the other newborns finished their bottles long before I was done. It is told that I would sip a little, then stop and look around, then sip a little more and continue this pattern until I was satisfied. The doctor told my mother I would be a piddler all of my life. Oh, how right he was!

Piddling begats piddling. My daughter tries do everything as fast as she can, so I think it's safe to say she did not inherit this habit. (Although she is only 3 right now and has not started formal lessons.) My son, however, will be the child to carry this on. And so, this brings me to our current situation of getting through our school lessons in a timely manner. I truely understand that, at 5 years old, he is still young and easily side-tracked. I don't expect him to behave and be as attentive as an adult should be. (I say 'should be' because I know many adults who don't pay attention very well, either.) But, it should not take all day to finish kindergarten - or 1st grade - level work.

It is important to understand sometimes why the piddling is happening. Sometimes, it's just pure piddling, with no other reason. Other times, however, there may be something else going on. My son is a perfectionist, of sorts. He can get so hung up on trying to make his letters or numbers look exactly like the computer generated examples. He will write and erase, write and erase, and so on. You can see frustration building. I constantly praise him for his efforts and try to remind him that as long as he does his best, that's good enough. I don't expect his writing to look like mine or someone else's that's had many more years of practice. It is hard for him to understand this, though. So I tread lightly, and sometimes on egg shells, in order not to push him to never be satisfied or to just never try at all.

Other times, the piddling flows out of his creative side. He has quite an imagination and flare for creativity and it eventually has to come out somewhere. If I have not provided enough activities for him to use these gifts of God, then he will start making curly-swirly letters and 'bubble' letters, as he calls them, to just simply write his name on the top of a page or when he's supposed to be working on his handwriting lesson. Obviously, the more complicated you make it, the more time you are using. His imagination also comes out in the form of questions. For instance, his reading curriculum has a workbook with illustrations for the words he is to work on. The other day, one of the words was "take." The drawing was of someone 'taking' a gift from someone else, with rather determined expressions on their faces. Instead of just circling, writing, or whatever the direction said to do with this and going on to the next, he started asking, "Why is he taking that from him?" "What are they fighting about?" "Is he angry?" I had to make up reasons to satisfy his curiousity over this simple little drawing. Since this drawing was used on every page for the word "take," I had to answer questions like this on every page and he would not move on to the next word until I answered him. Again, more time was taken than I would have liked.

So, my first suggestion in dealing with piddling, is to figure out what is causing the piddling. It could be just that-piddling. It is a normal childish behavior to some degree, especially in younger children. But, as you can see, there might be other explainations for "taking forever." If your child comes home from school with a lot of homework, you might need to let them get their creativity out before they start on their homework. This might also include physical activity. Perhaps you have a perfectionist on your hands that you need to be sensitive of. I hope to study more about how to handle perfectionism in children and perhaps share that with you some day. Maybe there is some other reason for your child's piddling. If you home school, spend more time watching them, talking to them, or whatever it takes. If your child goes to school elsewhere, talk to their teachers to see what is going on in class, as well as talking to and spending time with your child. If we know our children and what is going on, then we can better help them.

To keep this post from become too lengthy, I'm going to put this subject in two parts. I hope these insights, so far, might help you in any way. Please read part two for practical ideas to help with your piddler.

Me, My Kids, and Responsibility

2010-01-22T19:56:00.000-08:00

The name of my blog, "Titus 2 Mommy of 2" comes from the passage in Titus 2, verses 3 through 5. It reads, "Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored."

Teaching responsibility to children is a direct reflection of this passage in several ways. Part of loving our children is teaching them to have a godly character and to be responsible adults one day. After all, we are not raising them to stay children. We are rearing our children to be adults. It is my prayer and desire for my children to be godly, responsible adults. But, how will they become godly and responsible if I and my husband do not teach them through example and opportunity?

To lay some ground work for a minute, I believe we should teach our children from birth that they are not the center of the family, but a vital part of the family. Christ should be the center of our individual lives and our families. When we put our children-or anything else-in His place, nothing will turn out they way they should. I think it does a great dishonor to revolve every aspect of our lives around the happiness of our children. I have seen so many mothers and fathers drained, weary, and even lonely in doing this. I'm not saying that we shouldn't care whether our children are happy or not. I love for my children to be happy. But, they need to learn to be adaptable too. Schedules are often made around children, and that's okay to an extent. Newborns especially have needs that have to be met around the clock. At some point, and the earlier the better, we need to develope schedules that work for everyone's satisfaction though, not just the child's. For if we revolve our life around our children, I'm afraid they will often become self-centered. They might not learn to be flexible and adaptable and might not learn to be aware of the needs of others.

This brings me to the meat of this post. Giving responsibility to your children is one of the best ways to let them know that they are a vital part of the family. It also teaches them that work doesn't 'magically' happen. Not letting our children help with the housework can actually have more detriments than one might think. Not only will they be ill equipped, but it often leaves them to think that they aren't allowed to help because they aren't good enough, can't do it "right", and/or they will turn out to be lazy slobs.

So, where do we start? Start when they are old enough to sit up on their own. Let them "help" you put their toys away. As they grow older, they can do more things to help you. Let a two year old match socks with you. Three year olds can help you dust the base boards and other surfaces. Hand them a feather duster and let them have some fun. Four year olds can start making their beds. (My three year old trys now, but I do most of it for her, yet.) I still have to help my 5 year old pull the top sheet up, but he can pull and straighten his comforter, fix the pillows and even is picky about how to arrange the stuffed animals so they look nice.

Let me stop here and say this. You have to throw your 'perfect picture' of how things should be out the window. Their made beds aren't going to look like they belong in a catalog. Folded towels aren't going to be neat and pretty, either. Shelves and tables may have a layer of dust on the back halves, and a table setting will look like a 3 or 5 year old did it. Get over it. You will bring so much joy to a young child's heart by letting them accomplish something on their own and not re-doing it to suit yourself. Tell them what a good job they have done. If you need to go back and dust the back parts of the shelves or tables, okay. If you have to secretly redo a few dishes, by all means-please do. But, if at all possible, refrain yourself from redoing everything to make it "perfect." This will only make them think that what they do isn't good enough and it will either cause them to be a 'people pleaser' or not to care at all. The older they get, the better it will get. I promise. If you love and cherish their childish drawings as if they were priceless works of art, then why can't you do the same with their level of household accomplishments?

I also want to say that if they come up with a 'different' way to do a chore (example: folding a towel a different way than you)...accept it if it gets the job done. Don't teach them that things not only have to be 'perfect' from the beginning, but they have to be done "the way I do it." This has caused a lot of fights in new marriages. You know how those begin..."That's not the RIGHT way, here's how MY mom does it..." Don't set your son or daughter up for this. If you teach them to be flexible in the way things are done by being flexible yourself, then maybe-just maybe- you will save their marraige from a few unneccessary fights and heartaches. And who knows, maybe their way is a better way.

There are a lot of websites out there with age appropriate chore lists. Just type in the words 'chore list for children' or something like that, and you will not be lacking. You will find all kinds of jobs around the house that you ought to be letting your children do! Obviously you need to taylor these for your children acording to their own ability. (I have seen a few jobs listed for 5 and 6 year olds that I'm not at all comfortable letting my child do, yet.) I am the mother, but I am not their maid. Share the workload and you might find some free time you never had before, more time to ENJOY your family and children.

One of the best things I have recently found for my little ones are "Chore Cards." I got this idea at http://suchtreasures.com/2008/05/08/chore-system-chore-cards/comment-page-1/#comment-6740 It is cheap and inexpensive. I didn't have to go out a buy anything because I already had envelopes and index cards at home. I'm not going to give full details as this blog site does a wonderful and complete job itself. You can see a couple of pictures of what my own system looks like. I have also listed below my own list of chores my children are capable of doing with little or no help at 3 and 5 years old.

Individual chores for each of them are:
~ brush teeth a.m.
~ brush teeth p.m.
~ make bed
~ dust bedroom (what they can reach)
~ tidy up room
~ put clothes away (when laundry is done)
~ W.I.L.D. card (Walk In, Look for something that doesn't belong, Do put it up.)
This card idea also came directly from the website - from another's comment.

The daily chores they take turns with weekly are:
~ dust the living room
~ help fold laundry (mostly towels right now)
~ help with garbage (this is mostly my son's job right now, but my daughter will also share this when she is old enough. Girls have to learn to take out the trash too, you know!)
~ sweep floors-living room, hallways, bedrooms (I give them a swiffer because a regular broom is still too hard for them right now.)
~ clean bathroom sink
~ help with laundry (They pull their little step stool over and I hand them the clothes to put in, then let them drop the fabric softner ball in. If they get there quick enough, I might let them pour the detergent in. They also like to help put things in the dryer.)
~ feed fish
~ clear off table after breakfast
~ wipe off table after breakfast (wiping off the table is mostly my son's job right now because my daughter can't really reach very far.)
~ wipe off table after school
~ clear off table after lunch
~ wipe off table after lunch
~ set the table for supper
~ clear off table after supper
~ wipe off table after supper

I even made some pockets for myself! Not only do the kids see me doing my part and it's fun to move the cards with them, but it helps me keep on track. (I can be easily side-tracked!!) I color-coded the cards so that Joshua's are blue, Emily's are pink, mine are purple, daily chores are orange, and weekly chores are yellow. I have taken pictures to add to their cards to help with the one they can't read yet, especially for my 3 year old. Hopefully this will allow them to go from one chore to the next without me having to run in the kitchen to read the next card for them every time. I haven't had time to get the pictures on their yet, so I can't tell you if it will work or not. It certainly won't hurt anything though. I will probably laminate the cards once the pictures are on there for durability and 'lastability.' (To laminate, I just use clear contact paper right now until I can get my own laminating machine!)

My children have loved helping me and think moving the cards from one pocket to the next is fun. I still have to do a lot of assisting, especially with my 3 year old. But, I try not to overtake their responsibility and just do it myself. I just 'assist' as needed, then step back to let them do what they can by themselves.

It's never to early or too late to start "teaching what is good" to our children. Why not start today?

New Year's Resolutions

2010-01-01T18:35:00.000-08:00

I recently wrote this article for the women's ministry part of our church's monthly newsletter. I wrote it to myself, honestly. But, I thought maybe others would like a different perspective on making those "New Year Resolutions," so I 'thought them outloud' on paper. I've decided to add it to my blog so that maybe it will help a few others, too. I hope you have a wonderful new year....

Last year, I made a list of New Year’s Resolutions that I was determined to follow through with. Being more frugal happened for about 3 months. We did get the house up for sale. But, finally took it back off the market in November to try again later. (It goes without saying that buying a new house hasn’t happened, either.) Exercising… never happened. I did manage to spend more quiet time with my Bible and my Lord this year, but I know I still could have, and should have, done much better.

Some people don’t make New Year Resolutions at all because they are afraid they will fail. They think, “Why bother?” I often ask, “Why wait until January 1st to make that change or tackle that challenge?” This is what I want you to think about as we start 2010.

If making a list of challenges to keep up with all year long sounds overwhelming, set one goal at a time. Start with the Lord, always. Spend more time with Him in His Word and in prayer, and with trusted Christian friends. He will help you accomplish the rest. One of my very favorite verses in the Bible is Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.” And as the verse in the old hymn says, “Without Him, I could do nothing. Without Him, I’d surely fail.” Even if this is the only goal you set for this year, it is worthy enough.

When you are in a good habit of conversing and learning from our Savior, start the next goal. When that one is accomplished, or the habit is firm, then and only then, move on to the next goal. There is absolutely no reason to try and start 5, 6, or 10 goals all at the same time. No wonder most of us give up within the first few weeks!

One goal at a time. One day at a time. One step at a time. That is all Christ asks of us. That is all we should require of ourselves. Our Lord promised not to give us more than we can handle, so why do we? But, if we don’t try anything, we’ve already failed.

I leave you with another few verses from Philippians, written thousands of years ago, by our fellow brother in Christ, who also understood the trials and struggles we have.
“Not that I have already reached [the goal] or am already fully mature, but I make every effort to take hold of it because I also have been taken hold of by Christ Jesus.” “Brothers, I do not consider myself to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: forgetting what is behind and reaching forward to what is ahead, I pursue as my goal the prize promised by God’s heavenly call in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3: 12-14. (HCSB)

God bless you, my sisters [and brothers], and Happy New Year!!

Lessons from a Five Year Old

2009-11-04T12:36:00.000-08:00

This semester, I have been teaching my son, Joshua, the Beattitudes in school as part of his Bible lessons. Each week we would learn and study about the next beattitude, memorize the verse, and discuss it's meaning. But, with 5 year olds, you never really know how much they are paying much attention and if they are truely understanding. A few weeks ago, I received my answer and more.

I was having a particularly rough time with his younger sister, Emily. Her strong will was at the top of it's game this day and we were not getting along. This all happening during school time with Joshua, nonetheless. Once I felt Emily was calm enough that I could focus my attention on Joshua once again, Joshua asked me, "Are you having an angry day?" With my heartbeat still racing from dealing with Emily, I relpied, "I am a little angry with Emily." Joshua made a suggestion. "You need to ask God and Emily to forgive you," he said.
(Blessed are those who mourn, feeling sad for doing wrong and seeking forgiveness-for they shall be comforted.)
Already feeling the anger leave and guilt settling in, I stated to him, "Joshua, Emily was acting in a way she shouldn't and being disrespectful. I have to do something." "What do you think I should do?" With just a moment of thought, he replied, "You need to show her mercy, Mom, and not give her a spanking."
Mercy-forgiveness and compassion especially when undeserved.
(Blessed are the merciful-for they shall obtain mercy.)

With my heart filled with love, pride, and even mercy, there was no more room for anger. "That's a good idea, Joshua." A few minutes later, I went back into Emily's room and sat on her bed, pulling her in my lap. I did all that Joshua suggested. I apologized to her for getting angry. I asked if she was sorry for her behavior, and she was and I immediately forgave. We prayed together and asked God to forgive both of us and thanked Him for His mercy. I told her I loved her. We had a much better time with each other for the rest of the day. Because of a 5 year old's insight, peace was in our home, once again.
(Blessed are the peacemakers-for they shall be called sons of God.)

I don't think Joshua understands all of the beatittudes yet, but he has an understanding far above what I thought. He is paying attention. He is understanding. And he displayed it in a way that would humble the most studied theological scholars. He sure did humble me.

Bullying & Being Bullied...

2009-09-18T13:42:00.000-07:00

I just recently shared scarring experiences of my childhood in my article on home schooling and socialization. My belief was that being teased, humiliated, and left out, among other things is absolutely not a neccessary part of life. Today, I received an email from Focus on the Family with review of Frank Peretti's new book, 'Wounded Spirit.' Wow. My experience is petty compared to his, but his point is the same as mine. It's not neccessary and it does effect your life long after the bullying is done.

Here is a link to the article I read. This kind of torture happens everyday.

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/schooling/bullying/the_wounded_spirit.aspx

HomeSchooling: To Answer the Questions #3: What about socialization?

2009-09-11T19:03:00.000-07:00

Part three...

3) "What about socialization?" I believe this is the most asked question and the 'issue' that is made the biggest deal about concerning home schooling. Honestly though, I believe this is the least important issue. I'm not saying that 'socialization' isn't important. I just believe it's not as big of a deal as others make it out to be. I'll explain myself.

The definition of socialization from Dictionary.com is as follows: "noun 1. a continuing process whereby an individual acquires a personal identity and learns the norms, values, behavior, and social skills appropriate to his or her social position."

Based on this definition of socialization, do I want the current public educational system to be the standard for which my child acquires his personal identity, norms, values, behavior, and social skills? Not really. Except for a few individuals within the government and political arena, our government of today is void of standards and values that reflect my worldview. (I'm not saying they have no standards or values.) Even with all of the Christian teachers and leaders that are in the public school system, their hands are mostly tied behind their back when it comes to bringing any of their worldview into what they are teaching. I personally don't want my children learning to base their identity, norms, and values on a system void of any reflection of Christ.

I have the wonderful opportunity to show Christ in all parts of my children's education. That Christ is part of it, not something separated from it. The study of Christ isn't something we should just be learning at church or aside from school work. It should be integrated into all parts of it. I can't force my children to choose Christ. Ultimately, that is their decision alone. But, I can show them how Christ is in everything we say and do, every part of our world. In the public school system, evolution is taught as the norm, as if it is fact, not theory. Christian parents, then have to 'undo' what is taught to them, tell them their teachers are wrong. Homosexuality is also being pushed in the classroom as something that should be embraced, not as a sin. In fact, this year in Knox County public schools, (I'm not sure about the schools in Tennessee overall), they have to now allow students to look at homosexual websites. Although these are educational sites, (non-pornographic), I don't want my child to over look another child looking at these sites and then have to explain something to them that I didn't want them exposed to yet. How many more values and norms do I need to list that are being taught in the public school system then has to be 'undone' by parents at home? What message then are we sending to our children when we send them to an 'expert' to educate them, but then tell our children later that they are wrong on so many aspects? No wonder children don't have a firm foundation on who they are or what they believe. Perhaps I home school because I don't want my child 'socialized,' not in this way.

What most people mean by the word 'socialization' is the interaction with others and opportunity to make friends with others. Most people want to label home school kids as 'weird', or 'loners', 'socially inept.' I dare you to take a walk in any public high school hallway, or even a junior high school for that matter, and see how long it takes you to spot the 'loners' and 'weirdos'. You can even spot a few already developing in elementary schools. I would be willing to wager money that it won't take you very long, and I don't bet. I believe home life and/or school peers have more to do with being a 'loner' or a 'weirdo' than where or how a child is educated. School shootings and killing sprees are evidence of that.

That thought brings me to the next point. I'm far from convinced that it is necessary for children to be forced to deal with bullying, teasing, and being stereotyped into a specific group, which often stays with you through the rest of your graded school years, as a 'normal' part of school and of growing up. In my own experience, it has no positive benefits. I was a skinny, buck-toothed girl growing up. Though my parents loved me very much, I was often made fun of by my school peers for being so skinny, among other things, to the point that I remember crying both during school and after school and it only got worse in the junior high grades. Once I hit high school, it wasn't so bad. But, because of the ridicule and rejection I had experienced for so many years, I constantly doubted myself and what others saw in me. I carried these feelings all the way through college. In fact, it made for a rocky start when I first started dating my husband and through his efforts and the wonderful grace of God, I have been finally able to shrug that lack of confidence and self doubt. I don't believe for a minute that any of this was necessary, except that I might have more understanding for others in that situation.

One of the frequently asked questions on the Focus on the Family website is, "Do you think home schooling might negatively impact the socialization process?" James Dobson had a lot to say on this issue, but this sums up my feelings on the current matter, "If acquainting them with ridicule, rejection, physical threats, and the rigors of the pecking order is necessary to socialize our children, I'd recommend that we keep them unsocialized for a little longer."

For the most part, (just as there are 'weirdos' in the school system, there are a few being home schooled too,) home schooled children are very well rounded and adjusted among their peers. Home school students are privy to all kinds of activities where they can learn to interact and become friends with others. They are usually busy with some kind of sport activity, music, dancing, 4H clubs, Boy/Girl Scouts, church...you name it, they do it. Home school kids are exposed to a wide variety cultures, backgrounds, family dynamics, and other situations that will help expose them to the wide world we live in. There are home school cooperatives, known as 'co-ops', that many home school students attend with others in a class-like setting. In fact, studies conducted over several years are now showing that home school students are actually more confident with themselves, more socially adjusted, and less peer dependent than their traditionally schooled counterparts. Contrary to popular opinion, home school is more than just sitting at the kitchen table. It is a very busy and active lifestyle that takes education out of the doors and into the real world. While traditionally schooled students are put in a class, behind a desk, for several hours a day with same age peers and not given much opportunity to interact with different ages, home school students often take classes and participate in activities with many different ages, giving them the social advantage of learning how to interact with peers of different ages and interests from early on, which I'd say is better preparation for the 'real world.' (I've yet to work in a job where they separated us by age, have you?)

I am in no way saying any of this (regarding parts 1,2, or 3) is true of EVERY public school student or EVERY home school student. There are always exceptions to the rule, both for the good and the worse of the situations. I just want you, whoever you are reading this, to know that there is more to home schooling than what is on the surface. It is hard work, but, so is everything worthwhile in life. Even if you don't feel a calling to home school, educate yourself on it. There are a ton of good books out there on the subject of homeschooling. I will try to post a list of some of my favorites that you may find helpful to understanding this way of life. I'm sure you can find them in your local library, or from a friendly home schooling parent, so you don't have to purchase them.

I hope you have found this interesting and useful. And again, feel free to leave comments, tasteful, thought about, disagreements, and yes...agreements are welcome too.

HomeSchooling: To Answer the Questions #2 - Aren't my children missing out on opportunities?

2009-09-11T18:26:00.000-07:00

Part two...

2) "Aren't my children missing out on opportunities?" In my own mind, this is probably the most valid question and concern about home schooling that one can ask. It is definitely something not to be taken lightly when deciding on how to educate your children. Ultimately, there are advantages and disadvantages to both sides of this issue. In the end, you have to decide what opportunities are worth giving up for the other opportunities, and which ones are not optional. Obviously, this is a very personal decision because each child and each family are going to be different, have different goals, values, etc.

One of the biggest opportunities that parents are often concerned about is sports. If I home school my child, then he won't have the opportunity to play on team sports and he also might miss out on a scholarship. I will admit, this was a concern within my own household. However, if you know myself or my husband, then you know that neither one of us went to college on a sports scholarship. I would actually much rather my children go to college on an academic scholarship because, in my opinion, intelligence is more profitable than physical ability in the long run. Just to be noted, many Ivy League colleges and universities and other very elite schools are specifically seeking home schooled students out and recruiting them to attend their schools. This is because on average, home school students are mature, independent thinking, creative, and oh yes, perform above the national averages on the ACT and SAT.

There are also other venues to play on a sports team than just through a traditional school setting. Upward Sports is a great way to get your young child involved and their are leagues and other teams for the older child. Home school children are often eligible to play on private or public school teams, as well. (We do still pay taxes for public education, so I don't feel a bit guilty about this.) Tim Tebow was home schooled all the way through high school. A local private school allowed him to play on their football team, he was recruited by University of Florida, and achieved the Heisman Trophy as a college sophomore.

What about band, homecoming, and proms? Home school students have all of these. Well, maybe not homecomings. But, they have winter formals and other alternatives.

Home school students also have opportunities that their traditional schooled counterparts may not have. Did you know that many local community colleges welcome home school students to take part in their classes, as well? A high school level home school student can graduate from high school with an associates degree, at the same time!! (We happen to be friends with one such young lady!) They can also take their dance lessons, music lessons, swimming lessons, and other lessons during the day, instead of trying to work them around after school home work and other after school activities. It is part of their education, not something thrown in extra, if you can manage the time. The world is their classroom! Every outing can be a field trip, an educational experience. Oh, yeah...and way too much fun!

Because we are home schooling, we didn't have to fit our vacation somewhere between June and July, when everyone else has to fit there's in. We are actually on vacation right now, the week after Labor Day. Since President Obama recently went on what he called a 'working vacation,' I'm going to call ours a 'schooling vacation.' We took Joshua's basic school lessons with us, then used the great out doors and our other visits we decided to take as hands-on learning time. (Our "sit down" lessons only took about an hour, so don't feel too sorry for Joshua.) We observed a turtle in it's natural habitat, went to a museum about the local history of Waynesville, NC, then we spent a whole day on a 'field trip' to Cherokee, NC to learn about the history and culture of the Native Indians. Who knows where our 'schooling vacation' will take us before it's all over!
What student is going to complain about a week of school like that?

I could go on, but I hope you get the idea that home schooled students may miss out on a few opportunities, but there are so many more opportunities out there for them, they really aren't missing anything at all.

HomeSchooling: To Answer the Questions #1 - Am I qualified?

2009-08-27T12:03:00.000-07:00

Inevitably, when I first tell someone that I home school, they usually start asking all sorts of questions. I really don't mind them, though, because how do any of us learn about something if we don't ask? As I stated in my first article on homeschooling, I asked myself some of these same questions before making the final decision.

There are almost as many questions about home schooling, as there are home schoolers. But, I'm going to focus on what I feel are the most frequently asked questions. You also have to remember that these are my answers and my opinions. Although many of my answers are based on a lot of studying I have done to prepare my heart and mind for this mission, (my basis for answers are not just random and made up), and there are many who share my thoughts and views, ultimately, I'm only speaking for myself.

I also want to share something with you up front. Although I choose not to use the public school system, I do not believe that everyone, especially Christians, should pull their children out the public school system and start home schooling. I sincerely believe that as a Christian, home schooling is a calling from God. I applause the Christian teachers that are out there in the class rooms every day, teaching and guiding the leaders of tomorrow. I also support the children that are in these classes as well. I shudder to think about a public school system void of all Christians. Schools are a wide open mission field, ripe for the picking. If all the Christian teachers and students would consistently stand firm in their faith and live out their faith for others to see, we would see a change unlike no other. So, the answers I give are not necessarily against those going and working in public schools. It's just perhaps, a view to the other side of the spectrum. An understanding of the other side of the story.

The questions I'm going to try to bring understanding to are: 1) If I don't have an education degree, am I qualified to do this? 2) Aren't my children missing out on opportunities? 3) What about socialization? I am going to break these subjects down into different blogs so the articles won't be too long. Comments and even tasteful and thoughtful disagreements are welcomed. (Agreements are welcome too, of course.)

1) "If I don't have an education degree, am I qualified to home school?" We could even take this further and ask, "If I don't have a formal college education, am I qualified to home school?" I'm sure these questions alone have brought doubt and confusion to many home schooling parents, and perhaps, have caused a few to not do it at all. Therefore, I think this question is worth addressing.

Education degrees are vital and important and not to be taken lightly. The overall purpose of an education degree (but not the only one) is to prepare the teacher to instruct several students at a time on a specific subject, in a designated amount of time. A degree does not mean they have to be an expert in all areas of education. Let's say the average teacher has 20 students per class. At the beginning of the year, she (and I'm going to use She to make it easy, but the He's are not forgotten) probably doesn't know much more about the students than the names on her list. And each of these students are beautifully different than the rest. They have different interests and learning styles, not to mention how different each family and home situation is. The government and school system tell the teacher what must be taught throughout the year, (not to mention they decide when/what grade levels certain things are to be taught and what curriculum to use), and each lesson is given a specific amount of time to go over. This teacher also has to keep in her head that the test results of her students at the end of the year are seen, not only as a reflection of the student, but of the teacher, as well. This my friends, is not an easy undertaking, and that's just the "tip of the iceburg" of teacher responsibilities. This is why I support teachers and feel they are among the most underpaid professions in our world today. This is why they need an education degree.

So, what about the home school parent? Let me ask a you a couple of questions. Why do parents concern themselves with the student/teacher ratio of the school their child is to attend? It is because the less students there are, the more time the teacher has to give attention to each student, personally. When asked of teachers what they wish they had more of, one of the most popular answers is more time with each student. We all know that the more one on one attention and assistance a child receives, the better chance they have of truly understanding and grasping the concept or subject. I have never met a parent that seeks to put their children in the largest classroom with the most children in it. We all know that if that child needs help, they will get very little time devoted. Often, children come home struggling with what was taught and it is the parent who helps the child come to a full understanding of the subject or problem. And if the subject becomes to hard for the parent, they can arrange for another student or an after school tutor to help their child. It's all about one on one, which is what home schooling is. You don't need an education degree to tutor your own children. You know your children. You know how they learn, what their strengths and weaknesses are. Therefore, the parent can tutor their children in a way that their children will fully grasp the subject, not just to know enough to pass a test and forget about it afterwards. In a class room, if your child does not fully understand the subject being taught, the teacher cannot wait for them to understand when the system says it's time to move to the next lesson. At home, if my child isn't ready to move on to the next lesson, I don't have to. I can wait until I know my child fully understands before adding something new on to that. And what about the child that catches on quickly? They are often bored in class because they have to stay on a subject longer than necessary. It is said that the level of teaching in a class will be geared to the least of the students. (That's putting it nicely.) So, my bright child, who already understands something, has to sit and wait until the system says they can move on to the next lesson. This often makes learning a chore, especially for those that might also have ADD or ADHD. Their minds are ready to go go go, and they have to wait wait wait. At home, when I know my child fully understands and grasps a concept, we can just keep on moving at his speed, not someone else's, or someone else's system. It doesn't take a college educated person to do this. Just a parent, that knows their own child.

I know many college educated people that don't have any sense to them. I also happen to know several people, who never earned a 4 year college degree, who could better teach than some others. My parents and in-laws, for example. None of them have 4 year degrees. But, I believe they can teach my children how to learn many necessary concepts, such as math, spelling, reading, writing, history, etc. They are among some of the smartest people I know. My parents helped me with my homework and come to understandings that I didn't grasp in the hour of class at school designated for that subject. I can say for certainty that my in-laws are no exception to that. I have even witnessed them helping grandchildren learn. Teaching your own children doesn't take a degree. It takes understanding your child, a willingness to help them be the best they can be, and a love for your child that no teacher will ever have. The perks...you learn along with them! There is always something new to learn. Education and learning should be a lifestyle, not just a means to an end.

HomeSchooling From My Heart-The Journey

2009-08-19T18:42:00.000-07:00

Home schooling is not really a new thing. It has been around for a very very long time, in fact. But, there has been such a recent surge to home school in the past couple of decades that it causes quite the stir, from the government to down to family, friends, and even strangers you meet in the school supply isle at your local super store. So, I'm going to share my journey in this decision and my heart on the matter. I hope you will read it with understanding, whether you decide to agree or not.

Before my husband and I ever had children, we had the blessing to know others that did home school their children. On of my dearest friends in fact, has home schooled her children from the very beginning and I have observed how well they do. We also had the honor of having a young harpest play at our wedding, who was just early in high school at the time. Her much younger sister assisted her and even played a couple of songs herself. They and their brother were also home schooled. My best friend home schooled her daughter the last 2 years of her high school years. She was able to graduate a little early and has just started college. All of them can think for themselves, are very confident and stable, and have a level head on their shoulders. They are blessings to know.

Honestly, I didn't really think when I first got married that I would actually home school myself one day. At the time, I didn't have the confidence in myself to think I could possibly teach my own children, much less anyone else. But, there was a seed planted in my heart. When we were finally able to have our first child, we lived in a small town in which I had worked with many of the children in the school system. I saw first hand how the system worked, or rather, didn't. However, I was honered to go to church with some of the best teachers in the county. I knew their hearts and thought I would be okay with my child under their watchful eye.

But, something deep down inside wouldn't let me go of the thought of home schooling. So, I began praying. Yes, even as my first child was just an infant, I started praying about this decision that would have to be made one day. And as we all know, those precious years fly by before our very eyes. On and off this went for several years. My husband was not a big proponant at first, and I would never make a major decision like this if we weren't in the same boat together. He knew I didn't have confidence in myself and worried about that. And of course, there is the whole issue of sports. So, back and forth I went, battling with myself, mostly. I would ask myself the same questions that others ask. "What about socialization?" "Aren't you afraid they are going to miss out on something?" "You don't have a teacher's degree, so are you sure you can really do this?"

I brought these questions to the Lord. He knew my concerns, already. But, I believe that the Lord gives you the desires of your heart. I tried to deny this growing desire I had to teach my children at home, but the more I prayed, the stronger the desire actually grew. I started praying that if this is truly what the Lord wanted me to do, then to make it very clear to me and to work on my husband's heart on this matter.

God works in mysterious and even humorous ways, sometimes. A couple of years ago, a young gentleman named Tim Tebow won the Heitzman's Trophey award, probably the most prestigous college football award around. He was home schooled all the way through high school. Not only did this open up a lot of eyes and opportunities, it helped bring my husband around. I also grew in confidence that I could do this home school thing, one year at a time, one step, one day. I also talked to friends at church who's children were in the public school system. All of them encouraged me to home school as long as I can.

The more I prayed, and studied God's word, the clearer His answer to me became. So, this is how my husband and I, together, came to the decision to home school our children. I don't regret for one minute making this decision, even though I know it will prove to be challenging at times. We are greatful for the family and friends we have that have given their full support and are understanding of those that give loving skepticism. It will remind me that others are watching and that I need to be 'diligent to show myself approved.'

So this is my journey on how we came to be a home school family. I don't ask for you to agree or disagree, I just ask for your continuing prayers as we start on this new and strange adventure in our lives.

2009-01-06T08:34:00.001-08:00

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They do have other participating stores too if there are any you might use.
Check it out and enjoy the savings!!

Resolutions.

2009-01-04T19:29:00.000-08:00

Do you make New Year Resolutions?
I pondered this question for myself a while. What if I don't follow through...does that mean I fail? Should I make a promise, even if only to myself, that I might not keep?
In the end, I decided this...
If we attempt nothing at all, then we accomplish even less.

So here is my 2009 list of New Year's Resolutions:
1. Continue in my quest to be more consistent at daily Bible study.
2. Learn how to & make an honest effort at consistent journaling.
3. Keep some type of consistent exercise routine.
4. Continue in my quest to keep a consistent housekeeping routine.
5. Learn & apply more frugal shopping techniques.
6. Move into a bigger house. (okay, so this is a biggy!)
7. Read more non-fiction, (not giving up the fiction, though.)
8. Learn how to be a better blogger.

I think the theme would be consistency. (Not an intended theme, but it's obviously there.)
So, stick with me! It's gonna be real!